I get asked all the time if I compete in bodybuilding professionally, if I'm a dancer in a show (because I'm in Las Vegas), or if I run track (due to my huge quads). It's always one of those sports that I get the most questions about. I wish I could say that I get the bodybuilding question the most, but quite honestly they usually think that I'm a sprinter. Every single time I get approached with a question like that, I immediately start to feel even better about myself. My posture becomes straighter, I have some of the best conversations in my own head with myself, and it brightens my day.
One of the things I've said in those conversations with myself the most is, "just imagine if I went all out and really pushed myself to the next level?"; "just imagine how awesome my body would be then."
I guess my point in writing this note to you is for you to also ask yourself, "Just Imagine?" Just imagine if we apply ourselves how awesome we would be.
Are you one of those people who sit back on social media and watch everyone else getting fit, or chasing their dreams in some form, or the next and wished it was you? Do you find yourself comparing your situation, or your body to someone else's instead of just going out and making things happen for yourself? Or are you one of those people who have tried and failed in getting fit, taking on a new goal or dream, and then talk yourself out of it? Let me tell you something, I am no different than anyone else. I use to watch others chase their dreams and think to myself that it could never be me. I use to talk myself out of everything that I wanted to change in my life because there was always a reason that it wouldn't work (an EXCUSE). Right now we are going to just keep the focus on getting fit because if I told you of all the things that I have talked myself out of, I'd be here for days typing.
Contrary to popular belief, I just started changing my fitness life in 2012. I had always been in the gym just going through the motions but not really looking aesthetically the way I wanted to look. I was very strong and could always lift very heavy weights but my diet was all wrong. I had shed a few pounds along the way but not nearly as much as I wanted. The truth is, when I thought I was eating healthy, I really wasn't. I had no idea how to use food to my advantage (as fuel). Instead, I had been using it as a comforter when I became frustrated. I used it as a weapon when I wanted to give up after not getting the results that I wanted. I just had no idea how to eat clean, or what eating clean was. I now know that food is my friend a necessary for me to be successful in achieving that "JUST IMAGINE" body.
I use to watch other bodybuilders online and wish it was me. I would reach out to a few and ask for advice, or help with diet and workout regimens and of course many of them just couldn't be bothered and wouldn't reply. This discouraged me even more and made me think that I couldn't do it and I should stop thinking about it.
It is when I started to invest in myself is when I realized that I could do it and no one else was any better than I was. The importance of finding yourself worthy and changing your mindset is what makes the difference. Many of us look for quick fixes and fly by night cures for bigger problems than we are willing to admit.
Working out isn't the problem, eating a clean diet isn't really the problem either. The problem is not believing in oneself to the point that you'd put everything on the line to achieve a goal. JUST IMAGINE, if you change your way of thinking about even the worse things that can happen. even the negative things that happen in our lives can be used to push us if we CHANGE the way we think about them. You have to be able to build value in the things that are most important to you. First and foremost, YOU have to be important to YOU. I hear all the excuses that everyone uses. If it's not the kids, it's the husband, or it's not having the time, or the money to get in shape. If you don't value your own self, non of the other things really matter anyway. If you aren't completely happy with who you are, you are not truly adding value to any other relationships in your life. Not your kids, not your spouse, not your job. NOTHING! You can't be a real asset to anyone else if you don't first invest in and value YOU. No one else is going to do it for you. The only thing that you have real control over is YOU. The way you think is a big part of who you are as a person.
My biggest objective was not having enough money to buy the food that I needed, there was even a time that I couldn't afford to pay my gym membership. That's just an excuse too. But I kept feeling guilty about spending money on a diet plan when I didn't know how I was going to pay my car payment. Though they were legitimate reasons, they were still indeed excuses. I had to learn and trust myself enough to look beyond them. Why would any of that matter if I was unhappy with the life I was living anyway? I wanted to be a positive role model for my two sons but better yet, I wanted to finally achieve something and be happy with MYSELF. How could I tell them to not make excuses and believe in themselves, if I wasn't going to do the same thing for myself? I realized that I was being hypocritical and I was extremely tired of making excuses.
In 2012 I paid a lady to create a diet plan for me and I made a promise to myself that I would stick to it and stop making excuses. I have to admit, I was very reluctant due to the fear that I would fail. I was also very doubtful that anything would change in the way I looked. I was also concerned that people wouldn't take me serious because nothing had changed thus far. Often times many of us will worry about others doubting us, so we then start to doubt ourselves. That was no different than the way that I had thought at the time. I figured that everyone was expecting me to fail so I wouldn't tell anyone what I was planning to do (get my body together and compete in my first show). The lady that designed my diet held me accountable to the point that she required me to tell everyone that I knew. It was the scariest thing that I've ever done. I'm not the type to give up, or quit so I knew I had to do it once I started saying that I was going to do my first show.
I'm so glad that I changed my mind and started to think on a more positive playing field. I'm so glad that I loved myself enough that I began to invest in myself. I'm so glad that I took control and changed my life. As a result, I feel that I can now help others who want to make the same changes in their own lives.
I know how it feels to be frustrated and having sought out help with others who ignored me, I'm always available to those who seek me out. If I don't have all the answers, I research it so that I can use what I've learned to not only continue to help myself but, to also help others. Investing in oneself is the only way that you will find value in what you are trying to achieve and be accountable for your actions. But FIRST! YOU MUST DO JUST THAT...TAKE ACTION!
Just imagine if you invest in yourself without excuses, without any doubts, without any fear of what others would think, or say? Just imagine how far you'd go?
It's time to go all out. New doors start to open up once you throw caution to the wind and take the leap.
JUST IMAGINE how far you'll go if you get out of your own way.
Build the body you've been wanting
Increase your energy
Gain lean muscle
Lose body fat
Learn the importance of food/Use food as fuel
Learn to be accountable
Invest in yourself!
Be Fit, Be Fierce, Be FABULOUS! Healthy is The NEW Sexy...
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