RELEASE IT. Set yourself FREE.
Most of the time we refuse to forgive and move forward in a positive direction because we feel as though we can/will cause the other person pain by staying angry at them for hurting us.
Let me explain to you, the only person that is being harmed by those feelings that you have been holding on to is YOU. You have to release it. The healing comes when you decide to let go of it.
The art of releasing takes time and perhaps even more painful than the hurtful act itself. Whoever hurt you has probably moved on in their lives and has no idea that you are still haboring resentment, anger, and pain. They might have even moved on to hurt others too. If you don't forgive, you will also continue to hurt others. Unfortunately, it becomes a vicious cycle of toxicity.
The real POWER is in releasing them and moving on. You can't keep telling that same story over and over. When you tell yourself and others that same story, you are continuously moving backwards and feeling like crap about it. You are allowing the other person to still control you and your emotions. The only way to find relief from past hurts is to just let go, tell a new story, forgive them, but more importantly FORGIVE YOURSELF. Release it. Stop drinking the poison and expecting the other person to die.
I know you're probably saying, "Well, you just don't know what they did to me." So true, I don't but everything that has transpired in your life is a part of your amazing story. If you are holding on to how it hurt you, you are missing the true amazment of how you survived it and you never have to experience that again.
RELEASE IT. Free YOURSELF.